Acknowledge her parents' birthdays and anniversary
In-laws are sometimes a necessary evil of being married. And sometimes you love them, and
sometimes you don't.
Ask her if you make her happy
Something that many people don't stop to think about is that, without those parents your wife
would not be in your life today. So why not celebrate that?......
It's as simple as that. When in doubt, ask.
Be a good provider
Rather than guessing and getting it wrong on so many levels, just come out and ask her. If your
relationship is strong you will be able to talk about the issues she raises and accept them
Whether or not your wife works as well it's probable that you are the main income earner in the
home and are the main provider for your family.
As statistics show that a woman is more attracted to a man who is a good provider (this means
that he is gainfully employed, brings home the money, and is happy to do it), it makes sense for
you to have a good, reliable job that you enjoy.......
To most women, there really isn't anything overly attractive about a man who sits around
watching TV all weekend and doesn't play with his kids.
So it stands to reason that if you appear to be unmotivated and uninterested in spending time
with your family, your family won't want to spend time with you. You sitting around the house
reading the paper while your wife takes the kids to their sports on weekends is just a recipe for
disaster, especially if it happens on a regular basis.......
It may be stating the obvious, but sometimes the line between being faithful and unfaithful can be
blurred, particularly if partners have different sets of values. Being unfaithful to your spouse may
not be as blatant as having an intimate relationship with another person.
It is important to establish, early in your relationship, what you consider to be "being unfaithful."
You may consider having a coffee with a female colleague after work to be perfectly innocent on
your part, but your wife may feel differently.......
Be honest and truthful
Honesty is extremely important in any relationship. It makes up one of the many strong
foundations upon which we live our lives and is one of the first qualities we expect from our
As her husband, one of the main things your wife will want from you is honesty. You need to be
honest to your wife, your children and, just as importantly, yourself.....
Bring in the washing if its raining
Think about it. Your wife's had to go and pick up one of the kids from a friend's house because
he's sick, and had to stop off at the chemist on the way, and you've got friends coming for a
barbeque in an hour. The clouds roll in and, inevitably, the rain comes. The kids' school uniforms
are on the clothes line, and you know you'll all be out tomorrow at your dad's birthday party. The
last thing your wife needs is to come home and find that the washing is dripping on the line, and
you're watching TV, or sorting out your drill bits in the garage!......
Can one candle really do all that
Never underestimate the power of a candle.
Yes, one of those little waxy things that you set fire to.
Think about all those movies you've seen where the couples have dinner by candlelight – there's
a very good reason for that: candlelight = romance. What's one thing that always makes a woman
say "oooh" and makes her snuggle against you that little bit more? A candle. The more candles,
the more the "oooh" factor. Picture every photo of an expensive resort or restaurant you've ever
seen and you can be sure you'll come up with one common theme – candlelight, perhaps with a
garden setting, perhaps with a beach setting, perhaps just at a dinner table. But there they'll be,
gently flickering in the breeze, ready to capture the attention of every woman around.......
Carry the bags when you get out of the car
There are so many times when this will apply, from the few day-to-day bags of groceries to the
trips away with loads of luggage.
If you've been on a picnic with your family, you will know that there are several items involved in
the outing – the fold-up chairs, the esky, the picnic blanket, the bag with the kids' toy cars, the
bag with the nibblies, your wife's handbag, the kids' hats, etc. The majority of the items you have
with you are for all of you,.....
Change your own behaviour first
Unfortunately, we really can't try to change our partner's behaviour without changing our own.
The harsh reality of life is that sometimes we just have to bite the bullet, swallow our pride, and
take a good hard look at ourselves before we start to focus on others. We have to get real about