Change is like the waves of a vast ocean; it has great power and it is unstoppable. Change is inevitable and it is the way you handle it that will determine how well you make the transition to the next part of your life. In his book, Notes from a Friend, Anthony Robbins says, “You can change anything in your life today by changing your perceptions and changing your actions.”
Since it is impossible to live without change, the next question has to be, “How are you going to handle change?” There are three main responses to change and these responses will depend to a great extent on how you use the information from your attitudes and your belief system. You can be defeated by it, you can survive it or you can make the change work for you and use it as a stepping stone to better things.
The first response says, “I can’t cope with this!” or “It isn’t fair!” or “I refuse to change”. It is saying, “I feel sorry for myself and I am fearful and very confused”. The latter is a ‘head in the sand’ approach where these people just hope it will all go away and leave them alone. The second response, to survive any change that is thrown at them, sounds better than the first but it doesn’t seem to be a great way to face life. The problem with this approach is that people just get by because they are not sure how to manage change. The third response is the best way to handle it. These people rise above whatever has thrown them out of their comfort zone and look for a way of making use of the change. So many people have come from humble circumstances, yet by working through changes in their lives and changing their attitudes they have reached the pinnacle of success and prosperity.
Instead of seeing change as a threat to cause pain or being confused by it and thus resisting it, believe that it is possible for you to change, take courage in both hands and become aware that change can produce positive power in your life. Every person has the right to help themselves; they have the right to choose. Not only do you have the right to choose, but you have the power to use change to attain better things in your life. You can do this first by changing the habits of your past. Instead of taking the line of least resistance, which is a habit, create another path by changing your mindset and trying new strategies. Seek encouragement from family and friends while you focus on making major changes in your thinking and be prepared for the fact that changing old habits can take some time. This way the changes you make for the better will be lasting.
Learning to anticipate and adapt to change quickly takes flexibility. When you welcome change you are more able to control it and enjoy it so you can use it to benefit your future. Relax and be open to possibilities. Perhaps you could be someone who instigates change by the use of innovative thinking and by creating opportunities. Go ahead and challenge yourself and investigate their potential to help you make progress. If you are able to arm yourself with a clear sense of purpose, you will be able to negotiate any changes that present themselves. When you learn to deal with the inevitability of change in this way you will suffer less stress, you will be more confident and enjoy more success in your work and in your life.