Choose to be Different

You have a choice of two paths to follow in life. One path is inviting, it is paved with ‘good intentions’ and it is wide and easy to walk on. The other path is narrow, soft underfoot, rather overgrown and not at all inviting. Which path would you prefer to travel? The first path is easy to take because most people follow it. Difficulties are few and when you are following so many people, it is unnecessary to call on your creative qualities.

The other path, however, will require you to be vigilant that you do not stray from its narrow center and because it is so overgrown from lack of use, many obstacles will present themselves and must be overcome. It will take all your focus and clarity of vision to reach your destination. As John Rockefeller said, “If you want to succeed you have to forge new paths and avoid borrowed ones”.

Why don’t more people dare to be different? Why is it that only 5% of the population are financially successful? Most people want the success but they are not prepared to work to lay a solid foundation necessary to achieve their dream. If you are idle, you will not eat; if you do not believe something is possible, it will be impossible for you. It takes an open mind and an open heart and a belief in yourself to harness the power to be different.

Success doesn’t usually come to average people. They are average because they choose to look, speak and act like others who fit into the norm. Success comes to those who think differently, dream differently and act differently. When you are different you stand out from the crowd and ask “What is possible?” and not, “what is somebody else doing?” It doesn’t matter what business you are in, you must set yourself apart and think laterally. Your strategies must be different and unique if you wish to draw success to you.

Coco Chanel, famous French Couturier, summed it up beautifully when she said, “In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.” To achieve your dream you must be prepared to separate yourself from the crowd, to move away from the accepted ‘norms’. While a large proportion of the population will swim downstream, because it takes less expended effort, you must be swimming upstream, against the current of public opinion, because your goal is the source of the stream, not the outflow to the ocean of mediocrity.

Those who do not blindly follow the crowd and ‘fit in’ with the status quo are often frowned upon and demeaned. However, being different is actually a powerful tool and a necessity for achieving success. If you wish to be different you must harness your thought power and refuse to be dictated to by circumstances. As Napoleon said, “Circumstances, circumstances, what are circumstances? I create circumstances.” You must draw on your creative mind power with purpose and focus and determine that you will look past and overcome difficult situations by searching out solutions. You will create new ideas, possibilities and new opportunities to achieve your goal and ultimate prosperity.

Those who have achieved real success by being different have learned to mix work with relaxation. High performers know that stress impairs their ability to perform so they know when to stop and relax their body and mind to prevent fatigue and frustration. Learn to harness the power of relaxation and the journey to your goal will be so much easier, especially when you combine it with positive visualisation of what you are aiming for.

Your Success Formula

When you decide to take the narrow, overgrown path to attain your vision, your world will change and you will never be the same again. You will begin harnessing the powers that are within you and you will become strong and determined to succeed. You will be confident and focus on your potential and strengths and not on your weaknesses.

To those on the wide path of mediocrity, what you are doing will be revolutionary, but your experiences will earn grudging respect. When you determine to be different you will detach yourself from the status quo, move away from traditional beliefs and out of your comfort zone to explore new horizons.

By harnessing your thought processes and understanding and forming good habits you will be able to filter out negativity and fear of failure. You will learn how to handle criticism and difficulties as they arise by refusing to be a man-pleaser and by detouring around problems and thinking ‘outside the box’ as you climb the ladder to success. Remember, success is achieving what you want out of life. Success can be different things to different people. Your formula for success should include the following:
1. Get the basic knowledge and skills that you need but don’t take too long. Take action and continue to learn.
2. Use your own imagination – forge a new path.
3. Don’t copy others. Stick to what you are good at and do it well.
4. Don’t do what others do, invent your own.
5. Don’t wait for things to come to you – go out and get them.
6. Play to your strengths.
7. Do what others don’t do.
8. Believe in yourself.

Realise that by being different you are not alone. Although only a small proportion of the population are prepared to be different and have the courage to express themselves in their own unique way, you will find yourself drawn to ‘like minds’ who appreciate you for stepping out of your comfort zone and taking the risks necessary for success.

“Behold the turtle. He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out.” James Conant (1893-1978)