Change is a matter of choice. We have two main choices in our lives: to accept conditions as they exist or to accept responsibility for changing them.
When you were a child, did you receive encouragement or criticism? At school, were you part of the dominant group or were you lonely, teased or bullied? If you were loved and encouraged as a child you are likely to have grown to adulthood with high self-esteem and change may be easier for you. If the opposite is true, however, and you were criticised and teased you are likely to have low self-esteem. Unfortunately the latter is all too common, however well it is masked in our everyday lives.
As human beings we tend to seek the comfort of the familiar; therefore, change is always painful and we tend to resist it. If you know you need to be a different person to succeed, you will know that your attitude needs an adjustment. The difficulty is knowing where to begin. This poses the question you need to ask of yourself: What do I really want from life? The answer is you have right now exactly what you want! You are responsible for the life you are leading; are your thoughts centred on your failures and rejections or are you looking forward to a positive future?
If you are willing to change, stop listening to the negatives of the world for a time – switch off the radio and television and don’t buy newspapers. Avoid as many negative conversations as you can. Spend the time, instead, reading inspirational books and listening to CD’s that talk about how the mind works and point the way to a successful future and associate with successful people. Whatever you focus your thoughts on becomes a reality in your life. Begin to put what you learn to practical use.
Give yourself time to make the necessary changes. If you give yourself positive selfdirection you will be able to draw on the power within you and achieve your goals. Don’t forfeit responsibility for your success. It takes just as much effort and energy not to achieve change as it does to achieve change.
If you have been told all your life that you can’t do something, you are unlikely to be able to do it. You place limitations on what you do and you convince yourself that you are unable to stretch your mind and develop to your potential. It is possible, however, to reject the negatives and limiting beliefs from your past and change. If you concentrate on your strengths you will feel like a winner, you will see yourself a winner and you will be a winner.
Just how do you go about making changes in your life? It begins with a raising of your awareness and a strong desire to make a change. Once you have that very strong desire you must then go about the task of changing your mindset, or paradigm, about who you are and what you choose to create for yourself. This change must be made at the subconscious level of mind then it must be carried out at the creative level of mind.
If you think you can do better, you will. When you set your mind to change you will find that you put forward more effort into everything that you do, and you will have better results. It will help you if you get yourself a strong support system and reinforcing positive feedback.
Begin by believing in yourself and your potential. Raise your awareness of the problems you currently face in your life and continue to have the courage to seek change. To raise your awareness simply means to become conscious of what needs to change and how to change it; so often people have a feeling of frustration and helplessness due to a lack of awareness of how to change. It may help to observe or study the experiences of successful people. Seeing what they have and what they do can give you an awareness of positive patterns of behaviour which you can repeat with the expectation to experience similar results. In order to make a successful change you also need to see what actions are required to make the change happen. Problem solving begins with problem awareness. Note that just thinking positively will not make the depth of change necessary for a major paradigm shift. You will need to make use of outside forces such as speaking out and writing down. Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed and try the following strategies.
Imagine yourself about to take a big step toward your ultimate goal of success. What feelings come up for you? Is there resistance or hesitation? Do you automatically start thinking of excuses as to why you can’t move forward? Write down all the feelings that come to you as you imagine yourself taking this step. Don’t push the feelings down, allow them space and try to identify where they are coming from. Did a past experience contribute to your feelings?
Make a list of the pros and cons of taking action verses not taking action. Write down your emotions so you can see everything on paper. This is a great way of bringing previously unknown or unremembered negative emotions from the subconscious to the surface of the conscious. By studying what you have written you can provide yourself with a strategy for changing your patterns of behaviour. When you have decided on the path you wish to take don’t just repeat but drill yourself in your new behavioural patterns with the expectation to experience good and positive outcomes. If you do it right in the drill, you’ll do it right in life! Remember, you have the ability and the responsibility to choose and define that which you wish to be, to do and to have.
Changing your built-in belief structure from negative to positive is not easy but it is well worthwhile. Your attempts at change may come up against a wall of difficulties and you may battle through periods when your own self-belief is faltering. It takes a strong character to move past these battles and to keep striving. Persistence will keep your faith in yourself unwavering and you will succeed. Make positive change a reality in your life now.
Your greatest opportunities can be disguised as insurmountable problems, particularly when you become aware that you need to free yourself from limiting perceptions which have held you back from the success you so desire.
Difficulties will present themselves but the key to overcoming them is perseverance. Persevere in changing a limiting paradigm. Then persevere in following your vision. Every problem has its own solution and although the solutions are different, staying power is the key to each one. It can overcome a host of impossibilities.
Many prominent people, at some time, question whether they should give up. When those moments hit they can strengthen their staying power by remembering their vision and focusing on their goals.
Do not blame yourself if you falter. Just pick yourself up and continue on. Don’t try to do it all on your own – surround yourself with encouragers and choose a mentor who has been in your position before you and can help you through.
Staying power ensures success because it indicates a strong awareness to a commitment.